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Hi hi hi.
How’s your Tuesday goin?
Wait a minute.
I can do better.
How are YOU? meaning….how are you BEING?
Have you ever thought about why we ask ‘How are ya doing?”
It’s an extension of “How are you doing?”
And “How are you doing?” is an elongated form of the simple dimple “How you?” or “How are YOU?
But my two cents?
What we’re really asking when we ask someone “How are you?” is how are you–in your heart, with your thoughts, in your day to day?”
And the simple dimple way I ask myself that is: How are you being, Tre?..right now…this moment? How are you being toward and with yourself?
So in thinking about that, I wondered how many people ask themselves that very question.
How am I? and How am I being?
It’s one of the most important questions I ask myself …every hour in fact.
Yup. ‘Tis true.
I check in with my thoughts and how I’m being toward myself that often.
Why?
Because if I don’t?
Thoughts left unattended are like middleschoolers with a sub teacher. 🙂 They love to take over and run the show. And when that happens, that influence I call the “not_me” can start steering pretty darn quick.
Making to do lists is one thing.
Bashing on myself for not getting stuff done faster is not okay.
Being in a good mood is a wonderful thing.
But pacing with ourselves every hour such that calm and grace and balance and yes, joy, become natural tendencies just because is an even stronger stand.
And because those come from within, they thwart off the pull to evaluate external achievements as the be all end all measure of productivity or success.
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Think about it: if the inside our thoughts is all mucky muck and yet the show must go on so we insist, what kinda person are we projecting?
Probably someone who’s breathing pretty heavy.
Or someone who’s already full of angst even though it was just the holidays.
Or someone who’s just all about their to do list and so isolated in silo getting stuff done mode that connections are difficult.
Okay.
I’m exaggerating.
Probably most of us aren’t that extreme.
But maybe a bit too much of all of the above.
So it’s vital to me to check in often and much into thought and ask “How are you being?”
Take a moment and ask yourself that question.
If you like what you see, great.
If you don’t like what you see when you take a look at how you’re being toward yourself and you don’t know how to ‘be’ any different, give some thought to being in touch and let’s see if we can help you ‘be’ with and toward yourself in a much gentler calm and focused and productive way.
Without that inner steady on, there’s so much that can still ‘get done’ but at what expense? Your own peace of mind matters so deeply much.
But you know that already. That’s what connects us and gets us to rally that much more in attempts to be true to ourselves.
So how bout it.
What helps you ask yourself how you are being and what works for you when you’re not being how you want to be?
Would value hearing in the comments below. (or if you’d prefer sharing privately, send me an email or facebook message). 🙂
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And in case you’re on twitter and interested, I’m offering live help sessions via http://twitter.com/thoughtxthought as a way to feel out what it would be like to work together. (see the tweetstream each day for suggested hours).
You can send me a direct message or two or three and I’ll respond to each one. And if you like what you hear and want to connect further, we can set up an appointment to continue either right there on twitter or via phone or video chat.
Til soon, be well….and big hugs.
Tre ~
