Hey friend…Golly I’m so grateful you called.
I’ve been thinking about our call ever since we hung up.
I heard you deeply and I responded to what you were sharing with listening, nodding in my thoughts while hearing you, and responding…
I heard your pain.
I heard your fear.
I heard you insisting you just need to get over it and stop being such a weak woman.
I heard you getting angry with yourself, you seemed to suggest because you couldn’t believe you keep making the same mistakes over and over and over again.
But now?
I’m the one in a way who wishes she could have a do over…
’cause I talked with you as a friend and I kinda hushed what I really wanted to say…
I do that too much sometimes.
I put my healing self on hold….
and yet, if I had a do over?
Know what I’d tell you?
That it’s okay to pause…
and allow yourself to create moments of stillness
to listen
to your inner nudge…
and to give yourself permission space….ie; room…in thought…
to allow her to speak…
and to say yes to allowing her to speak….
and more…to hearing her…
really hearing her ….
Let her outpour her fears…..
Let her outpour what makes her feel nervous
Stop scolding her, shutting her up and bashing her.
She’s been silenced for so long.
She’s been sent to her room and not allowed to breathe.
Let her breathe.
I promise…as you do this?
You will be allowing you…..allowing all of you to feel seen, heard, and able to be.
You see, as you listen to her?
You’re saying yes to your heart.
As you let her outpour?
You’re saying to her ‘you matter.’
As you stop telling her to shut up her fears and get over it?
just because you’ve been trained to think it’s weak to be afraid?
You’re giving her space to think.
And when she’s allowed space to think?
She’ll feel safe.
And when she feels safe?
She’ll feel calm.
And it’s from that calm that we have that place of stillness from which we will truly be able to hear next steps that pace with our very right now.
If you allow this for her?
You will start to feel like you’re caring for you.
You will start to feel like you’re no longer bashing and shaming and accusing and ridiculing you.
You will stop feeling like you are a mess, a wasted life, lost, or whatever else you think.
Let her speak.
Listen.
When she outpours it all, you’ll be able to go in there and comfort her.
But help you first and foremost by honing it all in….give your undivided to allowing listening and letting her breathe.
I know the value of doing this.
I learned how to to say “yes, honey, I will listen, yes, you can speak” to my little girl a little while ago.
and it’s made all the difference.
Mommy your little one within friend.
She’s begging you to…..
Love you so much.
Right here with you.
Huggabuggas,
Tre ~
