This post is intended for anyone walking around feeling anxious about something.
I want to offer this: whatever is troubling you, try to pause and separate from it. I know it may not seem like it right now, but this intense level of frustration, fear, anger, whatever IS GOING TO PASS.
The problem, whatever it is: joblessness, feeling all alone on the planet, feeling utterly and emotionally detached from anything that matters, feeling completely insignificant, feeling you can’t relate to family, etc….whatever the huge biggie is, I know it’s looming. But it’s looming in the sense of an oncoming hurricane. And as horrific as you can anticipate it will get or become, it is going to eventually pass.
How does this help you now?
Reacting on any level out of fear or desperation just is not healthy and often leads you to making choices that are detrimental to your health, safety and well being. Believe me I know. For decades I rushed out on binge runs and numbed my pain with food or long drives that were outright dangerous. And then the subsequent actions I took were either really harmful to myself (like purging) or really dangerous like speeding, yelling, acting out my anger.
If you are feeling desperate on any level, right in the midst of that frenzy I know it’s kinda hard to think about an all prevailing omnipotent power of good and of love. But there is one. And in the moments of the greatest anger or fear, it’s also a prime opportunity to switch thought and really reach out for the awareness of this prevailing good.
Whenever you are desperate, instead of hurting yourself or worse, hurting someone else, try as ever you are able to calm down on your own, without substance abuse (alcohol, drugs, food, etc), without hurting yourself in any way.
And if you are so desperate that you feel you have to act out in a hurtful toward yourself manner, call anyone you know and really lean on them. I promise you, no one who really cares about your well being who will mind if you call at 3 am. And so the hell what if they do. Once they realize you need them at that moment to just listen, they will forget about their need for sleep and will be there for you.
(I could also suggest preparing a head of time to have a hotline on hand you can call if you’re unable to alert anyone you care about out of embarrassment that they will hear how much pain you are in).
The point is this: sometimes you need to get to the place where you tangibly know and feel that you are NOT EVER ALONE and the SIMPLEST WAY TO DO THIS is to pick up a phone and call someone.
And if you don’t have a phone, most hotlines are 1-800 toll free.
Calling someone establishes the connection YOU ARE NOT EVER ALONE.
And if you’re not able to call someone, just AFFIRM THIS over and over again: RIGHT NOW YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It doesn’t matter if you have to affirm that 100 times. Doing so will calm your thoughts down and you will settle down as you do.
As you CALM DOWN, try to realize that every single problem has a solution. It may be unsolveable in your mind, but with the right resources and help and attention, someone can help you resolve your issue.
But in our panicked emotional state, we never see this. We always feel desperately alone and like the only one on the face of the globe with this issue.
And this is NEVER TRUE. Again YOU ARE NEVER ALONE. Not in the moment of your panic and not in the particular area of crisis.
So to recap:
- CONNECT WITH SOMEONE
- CALM DOWN
- REAFFIRM YOU ARE NOT ALONE
- DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM THE PROBLEM
- KNOW THAT THERE IS A SOLUTION FOR EVERY PROBLEM
- STAND STILL AND FEEL THE ALL PRESENCE OF GOOD
This last point is the most important. To the degree you can separate yourself from the problem, trust that there is a solution, even though you don’t know what it is, to that degree you can calm down. And then just drown your thoughts in the fact that there is a prevaling all presence of good.
It’s this very presence that will enable you to slow down and get calm and not harm yourself in any way.
It is this very power and presence that will lead you to the choices that will help you problem solve.
It is this very power and presence that will reassure you that this tsunami of a crisis will indeed get solved, no matter how bad it is.
As much as you are able to still your thoughts, calm down and realize this all prevailing presence of good, to this degree you are really going to resolve your situation safely and in a manner that protects you and ensures your health and well being.
If you have any questions or wanna talk about any of the above, just leave a comment or let me know how to be in touch.
With compassion for your journey and trust in your ability to heed the right steps,
Tre ~
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