When that feeling comes
“I want it ALL to change…
And I want it all to change…NOW!”
But we’ve lost our why or how come or because…
When that yearning comes
either as a desperate plea of helplessness or a deep prolonged ache
What I find works for me time and again is to pause
and comfort my little one within…
And know that my now, my being are not a mistake…
First? mommy the moment:
Take moments immediately …wherever you may be
Go deep and directly address
That ache of a feeling …with
“Honey-luv, (or your own version of a nurturing of you luv hug)
I hear you…
and more this I know is true…
the desire for everything to change is our inner yearning to be true…”
Tell your inner you hear her, are nodding, and are figuring out how
Even if you are convinced you have no idea what to do, let alone what step to take now…or how…
What I’ve found matters most for me in that yearning for change is to counter “I dunno how” with its opposite “I’m figuring out how…now”
Why?
because that hushes the fear and overwhelm that wants to dominate you mood all day
And more?…this shift mommies the moment…hugs up your little one within and assures her or him s/he isn’t neglected for a single second let alone a whole day (or month or year or decade)…
And what this shift will do is calm the ache…
And for sure once the ache is gone we will feel able to breathe
Able to stop feeling like a mistake…
And surely there are a lot more next steps to take…
But for now this single most important one has proved time and time to me
The most vital thing I do in that moment
When ache and overwhelm
Failure or frustration of assumed wasted life
Are haunting me.
I promise to offer next parts in a little bit
But for now promise yourself you’ll mommy the moment….
Begin now right quick.
We are never a mistake….
We are never alone….
We are never without that solid secure stable base of a heart home….
Biggum luv hugs,
Tre Tre