“I am able.”
One of the ways I mentor my moments is to understand and defend at any moment: “I am able.”
I — for now — choose to be my own ‘coach’ if you will b/c truth? I’m more honest with myself than anyone.
I know this about me.
It’s a weakness perhaps.
But I haven’t ever been able to fully open up with someone…not about the internal struggles I have wrestling how to be true to myself let alone achieve certain goals. And I’m not certain we ever need to really. I am certain that the more we are honest with ourselves, we can find that mentor within in listening to our hearts and allowing ourselves to give ourselves permission to bare all within.
And I am certain that to whatever degree our sense of faith is practical and our sense of Truth proveable, we are able to find solutions that matter right in the right now moment.
Its in going within and turning to my sense of truth that I have learned to let that sense mentor me and serveas my inner coach, in other words.
And time and again, one of the most important things I begin with is to affirm “I am able.”
It may sound kindergarten like.
It may sound so oober basic you’re like, “Of course, I get that already.”
But you know what knowing “I am able” does for me?
It helps me put on this mental armor to thwart off all that says I’m not able.
And in case you wonder, ‘what do you mean by mental armor”, well I mean wearing that mental thought shield that thwarts off all the suggestions that knock on my door of thought insisting I’m not able.
These suggestions show up barking lots of different versions of I’m not able….like:
“I don’t know” or “I don’t know how” or “I don’t know where to begin.”
It may argue “That’s too hard” or “I can’t do that” or “No way, Jose, I can’t do that by myself.”
It may argue “I don’t want to do that.” or “But I’m just one person.”
It adores insisting “I have no idea what to do with my life” or “I’m not experienced enough to do that.”
And it argues that stuff especially when I’m cherishing something very near and dear to my heart that I want to accomplish.
And it argues that stuff when I feel like I am finally courageous enough to take some small steps, even when the small steps I’ve needed to take had everything to do with rebuilding me.
Here’s the thing about the “I’m not able” voice: it takes on the voice of all or nothing and extremism.
And it absolutely will try to seal the deal of convincing me I’m not able not only on that hour but the whole day and how bout the whole month and / or try several years…
of…
convincing…
ourselves…
we’re not able.
So.
To counter this tendency and thwart it off, I taught myself that the single most important way to love me when I’m mentoring my moments is to know that “I am able.”
And say it 52 times a minute or 52x an hour if I must.
To me it’s not human will.
To me it’s an insistance that I will live my individuality no matter what.
It’s advocacy of the most authentic kind, even if the best I can do that day is know that “I am able” to moment by moment figure out this grand kaleidoscope of individuality that is me.
So how bout it?
Do you mentor your moments?
Do you begin with knowing you are able?
Could you?
Would value hearing how that works for you.
Thanks for being here.
Til soon, big hugs.
Tre ~
