Nurture the now by mommying thought

“You should have done that!”

“What were you thinking!”

“How the heck did you think that would work?”

“I’m nowhere ready. No way. I want to but not yet. Lemme wait and see. If I’m gonna be anywhere close I’m gonna have to do x, y, z, p d, q, r, s, t…at least!”

Blah..dee..blah..dee..blah…(a lot more blah than dee)

Some days, when I hault the mental wheel running (like my pet hamster Teddy used to do on his habitrail), I realize something:

All those moments exasperated over past anything — or all those moments fearing the morrows or what if’s — are absolute thieves to the right now.

What if we treated our thought more like a mommy, nurtured our thought, and played protective guard over what we allow in there and what we allow ourselves to churn over or run with?

Just like a mommy helps her toddler crawl away from something that could cause harm or something that isn’t safe, so too can we hault our thoughts–very toddler-will-crawl-anywhere-like-if-left-to-their-own-tendencies– from venturing anywhere that could invoke pain, regret, guilt, anxiousness or fear.

Think on this with me.

If we love ourselves — our thoughts– enough, why wouldn’t we do all we can to steer thought away from that dwelling which causes regret, or that fear that imposes anxiousness?

I wonder if we’re even a smidgen aware of what’s doable when there’s zero guilt, fear, anxiousness or anguish.

How bout we mommy our moments more and protect and nurture those thoughts?

How bout we nurture our now more?

I know, I know. It all sounds yum and who wouldn’t want to…but stuff gets in the way….real stuff…real past regret and real angst over future unknowns.

I hear you.

I soo get it.

But I’m finding that to the degree I focus wholly on right now, on what’s doable today, this moment, then not only am I shedding past stuff I can’t change but also helping to create the lens through which I can plan for tomorrow.

And, in the right now nurture-my-thought-mode, I end up freeing so much mental space up there’s room to breathe, create, be.

When thought is uncluttered, when I go into that mental closet and stop giving in to the lures that shun, impose guilt, or insist on fear, and literally start tossing out those ways of thinking, there’s mental room for possibilities. There’s mental space to sculpt. There’s fearlessness, empowerment, deep deep honest awareness. And there’s the sweetness of hearing what impels us, knowing what next steps need doing, feeling that warm breeze and hearing those palm frawns playful beckoning ‘this is how to be true to our hearts.”

Nurturing our thought doesn’t just happen. It’s not a quick fix band aid. It totally takes a willingness to want to learn and a concerted repeated effort to doing so.

But the results are a lot less mental tug of war, a ton less mental running away, and a lot more settledness with the right now.

And I kinda dig those outcomes….You?

Join me? 🙂