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I blogged about 3 simple ways to trust ourselves better and while I had some delicious feedback (thank you!) on the post, you know when you feel you wanna dig in deeper?
Yeah.
So here’s me digging in deeper.
Trusting ourselves isn’t an errand.
You don’t learn how to do it in an afternoon, an evening, overnight or even in a week.
It’s TOTALLY a journey long commitment and not for those looking for a quick fix.
I used to be her.
She wanted little bits of bandaids here and there and occasionally a warm hug and meal. But she had life to keep performing for and had to keep up with the whoever she was trying to please that month/year/decade.
Okay.
I’m being kinda harsh.
But here’s what mothering our hearts and trusting ourselves isn’t about:
It’s not about a quick fix.
It’s not about an overnight utopia.
It’s not about go to bed and tomorrow you’ll wake up never feeling empty ever ever again, promise.
It’s not about ‘do this’ and you’ll become an overnight success.
It’s not about do this and you’ll get every external thing you’ve ever thought you wanted.
It’s not about anything external actually.
Here’s what it IS about:
It’s about hugging yourself again and again that you even care.
It’s about taking several moments throughout the day to breathe, remember who you are and what you are about.
It’s about being willing to realize that no one in your immediate may think like you and that will never ever ever ever mean you are wrong.
It’s about refusing to run away and wear a costume to fit in.
It’s about refusing to suffocate your heart with condemning inner babble and shunning.
It’s about tenderly holding the babe that you are, even if you appear a grown adult to everyone, and nurturing her or him and being so so compassionate, understanding, tolerant, steady and a sound constant support.
It’s about love from the deepest kind overflowing and constant.
It’s about not quitting ever ever again on the who you are and how you breathe.
It’s about owning who you are and how you breathe, no. matter. what.
It’s about STOPPING once and for all letting thoughts wander into blame, accusation, anger or frustration.
It’s about STOPPING once and for all kidding yourself that anything he did, she did, they did or didn’t do has ANYTHING to do with your right now.
It’s about STOPPING once and for all the habitual victimized abused role you’ve played so well, understandably so.
It’s about tenderly, calmly, inwardly knowing: this moment, now, we are each complete whole beings and we have the whole monty of our hearts to breathe, give, live, be.
And it’s about taking one step in a direction that will support and feed that outpouring, not shun it, hide it, scold it, suffocate it, abuse it, paralyze it, victimize it or worse.
Indeed….mothering our hearts is a forever bond….stronger than a marriage, more long lasting that a parental/child bond.
It’s a forever commitment to grow the child within, allow her freedom to breathe and be, and stand in total glory and honor radiating in that who you are.
It’s about right now this moment saying yes.
It’s about right now this moment giving your total consent.
Right here with you nodding, supporting, agreeing, and hugging your heart cuz guess what? I’m standing right with you doing this too.
Big luv for the journey.
I hope you will be in touch if you need help with this.
Gratitude beyond for you being here and diving in.
Here’s to each moment, mothering our hearts and being the who we are.
So much joy and love….
Tre ~
