Tuesday truth: Fear free is a choice
We sift thought each moment and must choose
Which voice will we listen to…
Which voice will we defend…
Which will we advocate for ourselves and others…
Which will we live…
Each and every second we strive to be real
The pulls to seem and appear dissipate for good…
Here I poem about that…
Tuesday truth: fear free is a choice…
Of which you will listen to voice…
🙂
I’m here always to support you choosing Love not fear…
Spirit… not limits.
Disrobing the suit of Seem: (one of the ways I’ve overcome fear recently):
I braved joining Linkedin recently…
Joining it felt very hard for me…
Oh golly very…
It’s been a while since I walked in the halls of
a corporate atmosphere
or tall buildings
or anywhere folks wear suits and expect all to.
But a few months ago, something really neat happened:
I had just hung up the phone with whom I was speaking with as a client…
A woman …
Calling from her office…
And I don’t know what she was wearing…maybe office attire maybe not…
But I do know we were able to share honestly…
She wasn’t judging me for working from a home office…
Nor was I judging her…
We were discussing something limiting her she wanted to break free from…
And as we were saying goodbye she suggested I open up a profile on Linkedin.
“Oh okay,” I thought.
And I knew I had to face my intimidation.
I began to unpack my intimidation about joining Linkedin a bit more.
There’s not too many arenas I’m intimidated to walk into anymore.
Why was this so hard?
Why did this feel so intimidating?
I asked myself:
“Tre what is all this fear about? Why are you feeling intimidated ?”
I answered…
“I think mainly because of a false belief Linked in is for the office user…the wearer of office attire…”
And see some years back at various office jobs and when I was a middle school Language Arts /History teacher, I wore a suit a lot…but it wasnt always the actual clothing suit…so much as it was the “suit of seem”
Oh, I wore a different version of it every day, quite honestly.
What I wore and how I appeared used to be a huge definer for me…
Of worth
Of ability
Of arrived
Of got it going on (le sigh)
But so did how I acted…how I …seemed.
I staged…
and seemed…
and posed a lot…
and it just was not real and it just was not honest…
Yet…
If you knew me when I suited up I’m certain you would not have known how deeply I struggled…
to seem professional when I felt constantly fearful…of too much to go into here…
but really the main thing was fearing I wasn’t doing womanhood right.
Yet that’s all been healed by now…by comprehending who I am spiritually…and living it daily.
The choice I made to be fear free:
Once I saw what I was intimidated by, I could choose to be fear free.
It demanded much though. It demanded resolving to:
1. lessen how I’ve allowed assumptions and inhibitions limit me.
2. lessen worrying I may put back on the suit of “seem” or the heels of “appear” two essences that always used to wanna steer my thoughts and moments…
Note: I say “lessen” above because we can resolve to stop anything and yet it’s never about ultimatums when it comes to ways of thinking and being…it’s always a process and a thought by thought endeavoring…
Recognize what the intimidation is suggesting:
So let’s look a little bit at these two types of thinking and being I didn’t want to fall back into:
“Seem” only results from a motive that is self absorbed and fearful.
Seem tries to …you know seem.
Seem tries to …prove able.
Seem assumes a whole lot.
Seem thinks surface appearance defined ability or experience.
Note to self: right about here would be a great time for a little cartoon character named “seem” to offer its Schtick so you get visually and sound wise what I mean…learn how to do animation, okay Tre? Cool.:)Â
Seem is the lure that makes anyone look at what you’re wearing…and judges you based on your attire…
Seem is the lure in thought that tries to tempt you to judge what another person is wearing and then size him or her up based on their appearance.
Seem judges.
Seem prances.
Seem is the thing that puts you in a box of your title is not relatable a lot.
Seem thinks it has it going on if it’s wearing a proud appearance.
But seem is usually motivated by fear and you can’t suit it up and disguise it indefinitely.
Seem judges limits and is just very mortal and ick…
And we can be so much better than when we don’t allow seem suit to us up!
What I resolved to think when I noticed what was intimidating me:
So I noticed my resistance to joining LinkedIn was because I both wanted to protect myself from being judged and more?
I wanted to protect myself from appearing or seeming… A pull that occurs to all of us online especially.
Hear all the fear?
I was assuming I would face others’ pull to seem.
And I was afraid of falling back into …seeming.
Double whammy fear baby!
I had to do something about that.
I had to squelch the fear and take away its power to inhibit and limit me or tempt me into assuming one thing or another.
So how do you unsuit from ‘seem?’
Thought by thought… day by day… understanding who you are spiritually and then striving to be that way.
Day by day for years now, I’ve braved showing up online…mainly to have a window into my work.
And I’ve been as real as I know to be as I’ve penned or video’d, albeit total room for growth.
The videos need some work.
There’s still a pull to fear.
BUT I’m pressing on…
These days I know where my worth comes from and why…as the image and likeness of Love we each are…
And I don’t need to seem anymore…
So I will approach Linked in with open arms and open heart and embrace all there as unconditionally with Love as if we met on the block or at a park…
Thought activity for you:
So what can you do if right where you are you know in your heart you’re trying to ‘seem.’
‘seem’ you have a clue
‘seem’ you know how to do what you do
‘seem’ you aren’t intimidated at all
‘seem’ you know more than you really do or feel…
It hits all of us…
And my story matters squat if you’re knawing on feeling this sense of inner dishonest.
So what can you do.
Well, a few thought tips may help you:
1. Have a face thought moment:
you need to. face your heart. face your thought face your sense of what is truth.
“But I can’t stand what I see…
“But I can’t stand still long enough in my thinking to notice what I’m doing and why.”
“But I already know I can’t stand who I am and this is just the ticket I gotta pay.”
Yep.
I get it.
I’m still nudging you: face thought.
Face every fear.
Face every doubt.
Face it all.
And then fathom with me this spiritual fact.
Hang on. Stay with me. You’ve read this far so far.
Spiritual fact take it or leave it but it matters and it will help you stop suiting up seeming:
You already are the image and likeness of Spirit.
You have nothing to prove. You simply need to be it.
How? you may ask…pick up the phone and I’ll unpack that for you. It’s worth another blog post or two or hundred.:)
But if you simply own this truth: that you are now — not some day — spiritual and have worth…
And this isn’t just true for you or me…it’s true for everybody.
So 1. face thought
2. know you’re already spiritual
3. Begin to refute the intimidation when it shows up. Just begin. You don’t have to do a totally 180 yet. It’s hard. It’s a process. But just begin to hold to your heart “I have nothing to fear in being who I am.”
“But what if I don’t know who I am. You take off my suit of seem I have nothing.”
Okay if you’re saying that, I will give you a free phone call healing session. Because you do have much. And you don’t need the props of or suits of seem.
But for now. Say you feel absolutely like you have nothing without the roles and ways you’ve been playing and seeming.
Overhauls are good.
Overhauls are healthy.
Complete overhauls are life changing.
You have to be sick of trying to seem.
You have to want being authentic more than the benefits of duping others to believe nothing makes you afraid.
But I’m gonna venture we are all walking around with some kind of fear.
And if you disrobe the suit of seem you will give dozens more permission to.
An outfit will never ever define your professionalism or worth…
Neither will continuing to wear the suit of seem separate you as more worthy or unique.
Your thought however will:)
You are not alone.
You are one with Spirit moment by moment. And this source this cause nudges you. And will be right there with you as you disrobe the suit of seem too.
So my heart to yours…
On this rainy amazing Tuesday, a truth for you:
Fear free is a choice…
And I for one began disrobing the suit of seem a while ago offline and will continue to do so online…thought by thought.
Join me?
